Thank you, Maddie, for teaching me two critical words for conquering the chaos that is cancer (or any life challenge with an uncertain outcome):
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Soup and Two Surprises
I drove back to Lurie’s Place today around 4:30 p.m. After spending the day with Lily, I headed back for the evening swap with Pammy. Pammy and I are chatting on the phone during my drive down Lake Shore. I can hear Maddie in the background ordering her dinner.
“Mommy, I’ll have soup and two surprises!”
Soup and two surprises.
That might not seem like much to you at first glance. But four months ago, Maddie was not an any surprises kind of girl. From my earlier writings, you may recall that one of the biggest hurdles we envisioned for Maddie was learning to adjust to the constant chaos that comes with cancer. The same child who loved starting her morning listing out what day it was, who was coming, and what we would be doing, was forced into a world where unpredictability reigned supreme. And tonight, the former Queen of Consistency donned her newfound Crown of Chaos. Or shall I say, she swallowed it down in spoonfuls of soul warming soup with her two surprise sides of cantaloupe and green beans.
This didn’t happen over the course of one dinner. Slowly, during the last couple of months, when Pammy would prepare Maddie for the day ahead, Pammy started introducing a new concept. Something so simple yet so complex for a young mind. The concept? Two words:
Watching Maddie learn to understand these two words, and embrace the future unknown embodied in their meaning, has been amazing. And without question, the idea of introducing this mantra of malleability was all Mommy. Surely this was not a discourse decided by a Daddy who digs peanut butter sandwiches day in and day out. Instead, I heard the finished product of Pammy’s lessons firsthand.
“Daddy, we’re going to go to Lurie’s Place, they’ll check my vitamins, and then maybe we’ll sleep over. We’ll see…”
“Daddy, tomorrow we’ll go to the playroom and then after maybe we’ll go home. We’ll see…”
What an amazing concept for a three-year-old child to embrace, especially one originally raised on a steady diet of consistency and predictability. No crying about when we’ll go home. No longing for getting out of Lurie’s Place. No stressing about the uncertainties of each day. Just being at peace with “we’ll see.”
And yet again, we all have something to learn from Maddie. You all know my M.O. at this point. Deputy Daddy. Mr. Peanut Butter Sandwich. Habit and routine is always my dream. Chaos my kryptonite. But let’s face it, we are living in one big mess of We’ll See right now. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring, let alone what post-chemo life has in store. Accepting We’ll See, and being at peace with We’ll See, is the only course to conquering the chaos that is cancer.
Embrace We’ll See. Be We’ll See. Be like Maddie. I think I’m on to a new morning meditative prayer. I have no doubt I’ll never be as successful in this transition as my three-year-old hero. But I can try and start with my next lunch order. Perhaps a peanut butter sandwich and two surprises? We’ll see…
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